Let me just warn you now, if you have a weak stomach, you'll probably just want to skip this one.
Kids with attachment disorders often have serious hygiene issues and it's not at all uncommon for them to wet or soil themselves.
Why you ask? To push people away and remain detached.
Just as often they will "pee out the anger" which, of course, never happens in the toilet.
I know a RAD mom who's child is not a "fighter" and rather a "flighter" so her daughter will comply in the moment and then pee in her closet at night.
I recently talked with another mom who's child continually defecates in his underwear all.day.long.
These are not toddlers, both of them are older than 8 and are fully potty trained.
We are blessed (truly, I can't tell you the number of times I have thanked God for this) because M no longer has these issues.
Our biggest issues were when she was a toddler. Before we knew about her RAD she would rage daily, sometimes for hours and there was nothing I could do to calm her, so I put her in her crib. She, in turn, took off her diaper and threw the contents of it around her room. On one super difficult day, she held it in her hand, waited for us to walk in and then shoved it in her mouth. My husband literally had to pry it out of her mouth.
Shortly after we discovered we were parenting a RADling I learned about Christine Mores. Every RAD mom I know knows about Christine. This woman is amazing. God had given her such an amazing heart to serve kids of trauma and to share her experience. She's incredible. She's the one that introduced me to the idea of therapeutic parenting, and my favorite RAD mom quote "out crazy the crazy".
Christine has a video that makes me laugh, reminds me that this is temporary and puts all the crummy RAD behaviors into perspective.
So, without further ado, here is What You Do With Pee.
